I Ain’t Sensitive Enough.
I’ve never really been good at reading people’s minds, their expressions, feelings, little changes in them (even though I expect people around me that I love to be able to do all of them. >.< Sorry for being unreasonable). I don’t know how to make people feel better when they’re down and stuff like that, and I get quite frustrated with myself sometimes. It’s like, they’ve always been there for me, but when it comes to them needing me, I can never get it right.
I suck.
And I think I just lost a good friend because of my incompetence [(?) I don't know what other word to use].
February 6, 2007 at 10:05 am
U lost a friend because you’re not sensitive enough to him/her? Well, could be true. But let me tell you this: some things are just not ur fault! Im guessing this friend of yours is facing a problem or something. But doesnt mean if you cant help fix his/her dilemma u should start feeling guilty about it. So stop feeling guilty. However, if you think you’re really that insensitive, then do some reading on counselling. Being sensitive is a characteristic, but being able to counsel your needy friend(s) requires skill. Lastly, blogging here about lossing your friend shows that you do care for him/her. Now if you weren’t sensitive, you wouldn’t give a damn would you.. As mentioned, you just lack the counselling skills. So don’t confuse yourself between the two.
February 8, 2007 at 10:51 pm
sometimes it just doesnt matter whether you understand wat they think wat they feel or wat they want..
sometimes friend will just need ur accompaniment..
the most important thing is tat they know u’ve put ur effort to share their sorrow n happiness.. tat is enough for them..i guest..at least for me..hehe…
February 11, 2007 at 11:08 pm
I know. But the problem is… I don’t even know how to just be by their side, say comforting things.